When the Prophet's infant son Ibraheem was ill, our Sayyida Mariyah, radi Allahu 'anha, called for Allah's Messenger to come quickly.
When Allah's Messenger, sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam, arrived, baby Ibraheem was in his final breaths of life.
... now think for a moment, May Allah protect you and your family.
Imagine your son's infant body in your arms cradle.
His eyes bulging, gasping for breath, face turning blue. Dying.
In your hands.
And there is nothing you can do...
except surrender to Allah's Will, with full submission.
This is what Allah's Messenger, sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam, experienced.
Tears spilled down Allah's Messenger's cheeks. The Sahabah, our Sayyids, flanked the Prophet, sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam, and they asked him about the tears. With the tears streaming down his cheeks, he said, sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam, "
The Eyes Tear
The Heart is in Pain
But (with my tongue) I will only say that which is pleasing to Allah
And we are indeed sad at your departure, O Ibraheem
Lesson: When someone experiences a death in the family, you have access to 4 body parts:
1. Eyes; 2. Heart; 3. Tongue; 4. Hands
It is permissible to cry with the eyes.
>>So next time you see someone crying at the death of a loved one, you don't have to insist that they stop crying.
It is permissible to feel sadness in the heart.
>>So next time you see someone sad at the death of a loved one, you don't have to 'reprimand' them.
But it is with the TONGUE and/or Hands that one either wins the mercy of Allah, or slips in to displeasing Allah. (With hands one must not slap their face, pull at their clothes or hair)
If you've been through a calamity, you cannot bring back what was lost.
But there is an infinite reward of PATIENCE that is awaiting your tongue's response.
My advice to you, dear brother and sister, is that there is nothing to gain by missing out
on being patient during this difficult time. Be Patient, and Say the Most Pleasing Thing to Allah, "
Inna lillaahi wa inna ilayhi raaji'oon
"We are all Allah's property, and we will all surely return to Him."